The Indian culture is way different than the American culture. In India there are arranged marriages. It doesn't matter what age you are, the girl's father will look for a very high class family and pay them to have their son marry their daughter.
In the story Clothes, by Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni, a girl named Mita was set up for an arranged marrage. She had never seen or met this man in her life. If she was chosen by this mysterious man, Somesh Sen, and his family, she would be moving halfway around the world with a stranger to live an American life she wasn't used to.
Mita would marry this man. His family liked her enough for their son to marry. How would she know if she loved Somesh? She wouldn't...It didn't matter if she did. The Indian culture doesn't marry for love.
"A married woman belongs to her husband, her in-laws"(Divakaruni 19).
She hoped for a good looking man. She knew it would be easier to love someone she was attracted to, since she didn't have a choice if she was chosen by the Sen's family.
If your husband dies in India, you have three choices. Marry your husbands brother, lay on your husband grave as they burn it and die with him, or be a widow for the rest of your life. Some would say this culture is cruel and unfair, but for them it is normal, this is what they are used to.
Many people disagree with arranged marriages. In America it is "normal" to marry for love. Both the man and the women decide together weather they want to be married, if they should be married, when they would marry, and even where they would be married. The couple decides all of it together. Marriage is not a must in America, as it is in India. It is a totally differnt culture from what we are used to.
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